Section 1.1 The Justification of My Views

In my discussions online, I defended traditional interpretations of the Bible, arguing against pro-LGBTQ theology. I likened homosexuality to diseases or crimes, insisting that we should not normalize behaviors I deemed harmful. Reflecting on those comparisons now, I understand how misguided they were.

Moreover, I perceived a threat to my religious freedom whenever someone challenged my right to act as a moral authority. This perception fueled my desire to express my beliefs even more vocally, as I wanted to assert that non-Christians could not dictate my morals or actions.

Subsection 1.1.1 The Illusion of Kindness

I convinced myself that my stance was not unkind. I thought that while I disagreed with my gay friends' lifestyles, it didn’t necessitate rudeness. Though I believed I could not prevent their legal marriages, I often felt compelled to gently remind them to seek God's will and repent for their perceived sins.

Deep down, I thought they needed to be saved from their "wretched" selves. I failed to acknowledge that their sexual orientation and gender identity were integral to who they were. I believed that understanding God's love would lead them toward a life of sexual purity and celibacy if they could not find love with someone of the opposite gender.

Section 1.2 A Shift in Perspective

If I could turn back time, I would confront my past self with a wake-up call.

How I Changed My Mind

For many Christians who have shifted from anti-gay to pro-gay views, personal relationships with LGBTQ individuals opened their eyes to the intrinsic nature of sexual orientation. They recognized that condemning someone's identity is akin to condemning their entire being, which inflicts real harm.

However, my journey to affirmation was somewhat different. I began to see that my moral values did not need to be dictated by an ancient text, whose reliability is often questioned. I came to understand that Christianity is, at its core, a human construct rather than divine edict.

The first video, Former Lesbian Activist Calls “Soft” Christians to Repentance | Guest: Rosaria Butterfield | Ep 796, addresses these themes of morality and identity in faith.

Section 2.1 Embracing Genuine Empathy

As I reflected on issues surrounding sexual orientation and gender, I realized I had no right to judge how others pursued their happiness, as long as they caused no harm. Research shows that when LGBTQ individuals are affirmed, their mental health and happiness significantly improve. Who was I to claim their pursuit of joy was wrong? That would be incredibly arrogant.

Reflecting on my past behavior, I recognized that I failed to practice true empathy. Instead of focusing on love and inclusion, I prioritized my rigid ideology, convinced I was upholding a greater truth, regardless of the hurt it caused others.

The second video, Gay and Christian, No Contradiction | Brandan Robertson | TEDxLSSU, further explores the intersection of faith and LGBTQ identities, emphasizing love and acceptance.

Section 2.2 A Call for Reconsideration

To those still holding non-affirming views, I challenge you to reflect on whether following an unseen God justifies the pain inflicted on those you can see. Consider if adherence to ancient doctrines outweighs the real harm caused to LGBTQ individuals. These are not just abstract concepts; they are real people with genuine emotions and identities. Dismissing their experiences only adds to their suffering.

Reflect on the core values of love, compassion, and kindness. How do these principles align with actions that result in pain and exclusion? The teachings you embrace should inspire empathy and understanding, not division and condemnation.

Ultimately, the love and commitment found in LGBTQ relationships are as authentic as those in heterosexual ones. By affirming them, you reinforce the essential values of love and respect that should underpin any moral framework.

It's time to question the validity of non-affirming beliefs and prioritize the humanity and dignity of those around you. If you found this reflection insightful, please consider supporting my writing with a tip.